Life vs Ego: Finding Your Own Truth
What I realized is that life itself should be the goal. Life teaches us everything—the good and the bad—but the ego is the one that creates goals and ideals. Those who follow the ego path will lose the essence of life. Life has its own flow, its own desires, its own expansion. You can’t just reach one goal and think it’s done.
Take a high-paying job, a good family, a house—all the external markers of success. Do you think these will bring you lasting happiness? These are ego-based goals, rooted in external things that society values. The ego attaches itself to these external objects, creating its own ideals and chasing after them. But this is nothing more than a reflection of societal programming we all absorb from a young age.
So how do we know if the authorities around us are telling us the right thing? Society has many authorities—religion, culture, education, economy, even celebrities. They all have their say in how we should live and what we should value. But just because we agree to their terms, does that mean life agrees? Does it feel easy or aligned with your true self? No. These are temporary constructs.
Above all these, the primary authority should be life itself, deciding what’s right for you. It’s about finding your own truth, what works for you, and aligning with your own existence, not anyone else’s idea of what’s right.
It requires a lot of intelligence to see through the power games and subtle manipulations that these external forces use to control us. But the most important thing is that you’re happy, joyful, and at ease with the flow of life. You don’t have to care about anyone else’s ideals—be it religion, culture, education, or anything else.
The collective programming will always try to influence us, pushing us to accept their values as our own, to adopt their ideals as truth. But your truth can’t be mine, and it shouldn’t be.
When it comes to meeting basic needs, there’s some level of truth we all share. But when it moves beyond that, truth becomes relative and contextual. For instance, killing someone is generally seen as a crime, but when a doctor performs surgery and someone dies, it’s part of the process. Or in war, soldiers who kill for their country are hailed as heroes. The outcome is the same—the person is dead—but the context makes all the difference.
Truth is relative and contextual. So, you can’t outsource your truth to someone else. You have to stand on your own feet, look inward, and find your own path. Through exploration and inquiry, you’ll learn what suits you, what feels right for you. This isn’t about beliefs; it’s about finding what is true for you.
Even if the whole world says something is true, if it doesn’t feel right for you, then it’s not your truth. That’s how you live authentically: by trusting yourself, by rejecting what doesn’t fit, and by living life in alignment with your own heart.